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Underlying cause of the haircut
“Either consciously or subconsciously when we make a big change in our appearance, we are seeking approval and validation from others about the change,” says our pro Carol Tuttle. “The problem with this is if we are not confident about embracing our new look, we can evoke question and negative commentary from others about the change,” she continues. This negative feedback loop can start immediately with your hairstylist who will gauge your facial expressions and react accordingly. She may even bring in others at the salon to weigh in if your artist senses that you are unhappy. Negative feedback loops like this one will only exacerbate your fears about your new look and you will be a self-fulfilling prophecy in no time.
More than just “breakup bangs”
We’ve all heard about the “breakup bangs,” but could a dramatic haircut be a sign of something deeper? Licensed counselor and psychologist Dr. Sherrie Campbell thinks so, “drastic changes can signify a change in motivation, personality, or direction. We tend to change our appearance when our lives in are in great change.” She continues, “most people resist change more than they accept it because we feel safe and secure in what we already know, even if we aren’t totally happy.”
Stop the negative loop
The best way to beat the negative loop exercise is to instantly accept your new mane. Carol Tuttle suggests you wear your new hairstyle with confidence and vocally share with others how much you love it. “When you wear something new with confidence you are more likely to evoke positive feedback from others,” she says. As humans, its natural to be reluctant to change but don’t confuse those normal feelings with negative ones. Immediately after catching a glimpse of yourself for the first time in your new hair, smile and take an audible breath. Recognize that its human nature to want to resist this new image of yourself but that you will be better off projecting confidence and positivity to those around you.